Setting boundaries is very essential for every individual. All individuals are not the same. Some students are very sensitive and find it difficult to avoid people who are not good or avoid being in a situation in which they are uncomfortable whereas some people can be direct and straight towards their ideas and opinion. But this holds not be compared or looked down upon.
Every individual possesses different characteristics and we should respect everyone.
However, sometimes, not knowing to set boundaries can affect the life of the individual and can worsen the situation. Thus, it is very important to know to set boundaries where you are not comfortable. It should be taught from a young age in schools to build that confidence and set boundaries. This is going to help in the long run of life.
Counselors need to help teachers and learners to understand the importance of setting boundaries so that it will help them in near future. Nowadays, all the schools have counselors. This department plays a very crucial role in understanding learners and their situation and ways to tackle it.
Following are the tips to set some healthy boundaries-
Make it comfortable about how you feel
Often from childhood, we are taught to not open our feelings, not to cry, avoid being sensitive, etc. But it can hurt the emotional well-being of the child. Thus it is very important to always encourage children to express how they feel, their comfort level rather than keeping their emotions to themselves. As counselors of school, we can always guide teachers with the importance of making learners comfortable, and also such training can be given to teachers.
Tell them the importance of setting boundaries
Setting certain boundaries is of huge importance to the learners. It is also very important to make the learners aware of doing so. Counselors and teachers need to make them aware of the importance of emotional well-being and good mental health and how is it related to being comfortable and set boundaries.
Practice saying No
It is very important to say ‘no’ if we are not comfortable or we are unwilling. Portray real-life feelings than just adjusting to the situation. Practice saying ‘No’. This can be done politely.
Do not feel guilty
Learners should be comforted by telling them not to feel guilty for expressing their emotions and expressing what they feel. You need not be guilty or depressed or sad for being true.
Mentioned above are few tips for teachers and learners which are very important.
Counselors and teachers with counseling skills are very important for the 21st-Century school because it is a need of an hour. A career in the counselling sector demands an individual to be a little more extra-ordinary and develop counseling skills so that it does not hamper the effective counselling process and helps to maintain a balanced life.
Thus, the counsellor needs to be aware of various counseling techniques that should keep updated with the latest techniques and skills. Keeping yourself updated with the latest counseling courses for teachers should be done to be aware of setting boundaries and helping learners to find and balance their emotional well-being and mental peace and stability.
If you are planning to be a teacher, a counseling course is very important for you in today's learning environment as a counselor has a major role to play in school instruction. The head of the school can keep quarterly or monthly training to the school teachers to guide them on counseling so that they can help learners.
Written By : Samantha Kanth
